PlentyofFish

First off it’s free. People like like that … at first. Then you realize the weirdo/​cheating/​inmate flood gates runneth wild. The thirst is real. Real scurry. My BFF call it Plenty of Squids. I agree except squids are tastier than the hordes of unsolicited d**k pix. The positive is that it provided hours of entertainment and abstinence. Whatever it’s the internets …

Plenty of Fish.
The thirst is strong on this site, I mean very strong.
When I became single not long ago. I heard about this dating app for our phones. So I made an account to see what’s crackin. You add a little bio, a headline and first date. Then you can add profile pictures of whatever.
Not long after I made my profile, I received several messages. So I replied back just like a text, to see what’s what. Basically women getting the 411 on who I know in town and what side of town I’m from. Because, in my village it’s like everyone knows everyone lol. So after getting sized up, to make sure I don’t know their baby daddy’s, stuff like that. It’s was on like King Kong to the next level.
It’s crazy because I got contacted by female Unilocalers from my village, Lathrop, Tracy, Manteca, Modesto and Lodi on POF. Also some of my female friends from IG, that didn’t know I was on POF. It was funny because a female IG friend shot me a message asking me. If that was my account. I said «yeah». You never know who’ll you’ll find on a dating app.
VD is like Vegas, what happens between you and VD stays between you and VD. ^^^
What was crazy, I was at Hometown buffet with my coworkers. This chick kept staring at me like I stole her plate of food. Then the blue little alert came on my phone and it was a message from her. Saying «Hi» I looked up and my boys turned around and the rest is history.
I never really had any problems with POF. Because I kept it real and let the Hynas know straight up. I ain’t looking for no relationship. So if you down to chill and be exclusive, then that’s fine with me.
I don’t need to lie to kick it or brag about B. S or try to tell you how much money I have. I’m no simp and that will never be me. I’m not the clown that takes pictures of cars he don’t have or living in a mansion he don’t have. Unfortunately dumb women be falling for that stuff.
I keep it G, ain’t no this and that coming from me. It’s like this, if you like what you see and I get you moist. Then it’s all good baby, it’s way easier to get to the point then dancing around being a wuss.
No gimmicks no games coming from me. I drink, smoke and I work wonders with my tongue. Just like how Moses parted the Red Sea. I be doing it like that, ya feeel me. So I keep it real and very simple. I don’t use no shenanigans to get in them panties. I don’t need too. Because they’re already dropping by the time I get there.
If YOU think I’m faking the funk. Then inbox me and let the fun begin.
Sincerely VD Keeping it real ²⁴⁄₇.

This is my second review. I was informed by email yesterday that my account had been deleted. No reason given. I’m pretty sure it was because I wrote them every day for 9 days trying to figure out why I couldn’t get on the site. I paid for 2mos. They took a years worth out of my bank. I got that fixed and then after a week I was not able to log in. I read what situations caused you to be deleted. I didn’t fit in any catagory. No nude pictures, no bad language. I had one FULLY clothed picture. Had not answered any mail from anyone. So I was paying for a site I had no access to. Finally heard from them telling me I was deleted and could NEVER use the site again. Funny. I was able to use it again. So I think it was because I wrote to them everyday for 9 days until I finally heard back from them. There is no phone number. I would not recommend them. Would have put 0 stars if I could have.

I have used POF back after I broke up with my ex back when it was free and although the quality of selections is questionable being that it was a free service at the time, wow things have changed. I just signed up *sigh* my GF who is now on POF after a bad break up. Now they want a membership fee which is fine ’cause maybe that will weed out somewhat the quality of people on there. Nope didn’t help. There is no quality control compared to other dating sites (other dating sites still have their creeps but they go through large questionnaires, raised prices etc). We called customer service over an issue and wrote to them. Never heard back from them at all. My advice is to join meet up groups and or go to specifically niched dating sites that are more narrowed down. She is a gamer and a punk, therefore, joined a gamer dating site. So why 2? She got one good date out of it, however, turned out the guy had lied and was married.

Regarding online dating, It’s a quick fix: Don’t do it… ever.
Idealization, and the «Get rich quick!» fallacy drives the world of online dating. It engenders very specific conceits and cognitive biases that are guaranteed to generate dismal outcomes, and an infusion of reason and normalcy will assure almost continuous failure.
Without getting too bogged down in Sociological theory, there are multiple conceptual frameworks governing the development of interpersonal relationships, and all have-​as their ultimate aim-​unimpeded symmetrical exchanges (or reciprocity) and maximal proximity (social penetration). Using Knapp’s Model, relationships are maximized once they pass through an orientation, exploratory, and affective stages, leading to an optimal level of stability in the final stage of bonding. All relationships (Friends, Business, lovers) follow this pattern.
However, this pattern is corrupted in the online dating world.
Many fall victim to the Gambler’s Conceit, customarily known as the «I’ll quit when I’m ahead» fallacy. The Hot Hand fallacy also applies: that a person experiencing success with a random event will continue to experience greater success with additional attempts.
For these reasons, online dating can become psychologically addictive. The psychological reinforcement makes daters persist in the gamble even after repeated losses/​failures. The psychological reinforcement leads an online dater to re-​enact this maladaptive interpersonal pattern in an effort to sustain the conceit and fuel the addiction.
Many of the harmful psychological aspects of problem gambling achieve a one-​to-​one correspondence to the world of online dating, as the basis formed is one of poor executive control/​poor impulse control, and emotional immaturity. As an aside, an individual’s overall level of life functioning is directly linked to their level of emotional maturity, or differentiation. Emotional immaturity manifests itself in unrealistic needs and expectations. You’ll note the seeming causality dilemma: the emotionally immature are drawn to online dating, however online dating also has a dissipative effect on an otherwise healthy individual’s level of emotional maturity. When you lie down with dogs, you rise with fleas.
The online dater can exhibit symptoms similar to those with substance addictions:
1. Preoccupation. 2. Tolerance. (Gambler’s Conceit, et al)3. Withdrawal.4. Escape (Lacking the resources to self-​sooth, dating is used to improve mood or escape problems)5. Chasing (Tries to offset losses with more dating)
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However, in a best case scenario, online dating follows the marginal utility rule: «The first unit of consumption of a good or service yields more utility than the second and subsequent units, with a continuing reduction for greater amounts.» There is a natural regression towards the mean, and your odds of greater and continued success do not increase with time.
In summary, online dating will transform you into a Cluster B personality disorder maven, and leave you with little else.
Illustrating my point, the following was lifted from a Borderline Personality Disorder forum:
«I’d like to know how you manage to get into a new relationship without becoming crazy about it. Last october, my ex-​boyfriend (which I’ve been living with for 2 years and a half) quit me and it devasted me. It took me months to move on, even though I’d thought about leaving him so many time. It was a really long process for me, to realize that it was for the best, since we had issues for a long time. And I understood he was better off, since it’s so hard to deal with me daily. I mean, he was with me, taking care of my panic attacks and my insomnia and my mutilation and my suicide attempts and my hospitalizations and everything. I don’t even know how he manage to deal with all that $#%^ for so long.
So yeah, my first reaction was to suscribe to a dating website.»

A bunch of fucking crooks. I forgot to cancel my premium subscription so they refuse to give me my 80 dollars back for a service I no longer used.

This dating site has gotten universal condemnation on various sites, including this one. It deserves the panning it has gotten. I once got a MURDER THREAT from a woman and POF didn’t even delete her account. I folded up my tent and left the campsite. I’ve been on many dating sites (six, all told) and the women on this site are the bottom, not only of the dating barrel, but of the whole human race. Biker chicks, bitter divorcees, women whose primary item in their profile is their support for their local sports teams (sounds like a GUY!!), women wearing sunglasses in their primary picture, … I could go on for days.
Dating sites are a minefield for any decent man or woman but this one has a special circle of hell reserved for it. I happen to live in the Bay Area and it seems like 60% of the women online are losers on SSDI for bipolar disorder and such who are destitute and living in the Central Valley and they want YOU, Mr. Successful, to entertain their every whim and, of course, save their sinking ship.
Nonexistent customer service and the worst selection of mates you could want unless you wore a prison jumpsuit. If I could give negative stars, I would.

holy fuck, you can review POF?!?
worst dating site ever but then, they are all bad! yes, i use it but its so bad! the owner is a fucking dick! restricting members from sending messages to people outside an age range that he came up with using some algorithm that makes no sense. like they say, love has no age so why put an age restriction if all parties are of legal age? and your weekly match? i don’t know. the matches are so random.
as for the members themselves? there’s good and plenty of bad. lots of fake and deceiving pictures out there which defeats the purpose of dating. starting on a lie?
and lots of people asking for the moon too, you know, looking for Ryan Gosling or Sofia Vergara while you, yourself look closer to Gollum. and that’s only about looks. haven’t touch personality which is another battle.
anyway, this site really makes you cynical which you have to remind yourself, POF is an alternate universe and real life is way better! i mean, people are looking for perfection and societal beauty standards so if you are outside of that, good luck!
the only good is that its free and you can actually message members. and by messaging, i mean personal messages and not some pre-​written message that you can’t alter like some other site

Somehow, someway, I got signed up for Plenty of Fish (POF). I don’t know how but somehow I got signed up incorrectly. Unlike US based companies, this one did not have a way to click on a link to request getting removed, that is, unless you signed up.
So, using this username I never wanted, I created a password, but still, I had to go through their whole signup process before I could delete an account (that I never wanted, mind you). There were several more hoops to jump through and I hope this will be end of these emails.
I am writing my «review» as a warning to those considering signing up for POF: If the service level is this bad and difficult for a new «member», aka someone they want to use their service, just imagine how much worse it will be if you use their service and you have a real problem that needs to be addressed. Your ability to reach a person is none, and the automated ways of extracting yourself put you in a perpetual loop of frustration.
I would avoid all contact with this «organization» at all costs.

Number 5
You are very popular within the community, you can get things done by just chatting. to even enemies! You have a pretty good business mind, you are often have no-​idea what is today is like, or tomorrow is like, you are a person who does anything when your head thinks «lets do this». You will be famous if you open up a business, get involve in share dealings, music etc. Very popular with sense of humor, you are the one your friends and families will always ask for help, and you are the one actually get money on credit and help your friends. You will have more than 1 relationship, but when u get settle down you will be a bit selfish anyway. Coz your other half will have a pretty good amount of control in you, be careful! You tend to go for other relationships! Contacts even you are married at times ‘coz your popularity.
You are someone who get along with anyone coz the number 5 is the middle number. Changes & freedom lovers you are! You are an explorer with magic on your face. You learn your life through experience and it’s your best teacher!!!
Your best match 1, 2, 9. Good match 6, 8 !!!

OMG, I can NOT get off these people’s list! I have tried their «delete account» more than 10 times, have called their Customer Service number (they were snotty,) have sent e-​mails — and there is no way I’ve found so far to get them to delete my account.
The people who’s profiles I’ve seen are sub-​standard; ill-​kempt, ill-​mannered, clueless males. I talked to only one, and he sounded like he was eating and could barely string a sentence together.
Run, don’t walk, away from POF!

It’s an online dating services that is free. The concept is amazing and this owner makes millions bringing people with different intentions together.
but physical attraction is really the key followed by seeing if the person is «just fishing»
1) Chemistry, Intimacy
2) Your Intention & your dating status
3) Your Hobbies and Interests
4) Your About
or really wants to meet someone. The headquarters are outside of the United States but lots of people from the US and worldwide join. You have to put up pictures in which people judge if they want to meet you based on the that and the following
1) Chemistry, Intimacy (q&a test)
2) Your Intention & Dating status (all men will contact u, know what u want)
3) Your Hobbies/​Interests (target male activities)
4) Your About (limit this, it’s public info)
Your first contact is one of the following: 1) quick message 2) Chat 3) flirts
Good News: This multi-​milllon $ company wants to get you to talk a lot
about your needs
BadNews: If you fish through enough profiles, you get tired of reading and just look at pictures. Then it hits you that you have to match up the persons words with their behavior and it starts to feel like either your being tested or your testing them so some anxiety can set in if you don’t do the following within a few days of the initial contact.
1) Always think in terms of your safety, meet in a public place day light hours so far from were you go, live and hangout and bring friends along this company is not responsible if anything happens to you and your family loves ya so proceed with caution.
2) Do not tell the person were you work at what-​so-​ever! or your life story better yet forget them getting your entire full name. Anyone signed up or not can see what you post publicly.
3)Meeting &Dating: You want to make it simple and comfortable and inexpensive the intent is to get beyond the website to A) see if the person has integrity B) see if the pictures and words they provided is true c) get what you want and have fun based on your intentions
My girlfriends talked real bad about me joining but I ignored it. I posted some picture and some unattractive girls reported me; I know exactly what men find attractive and what I want. My girlfriends frequently ask me for fashion dating advice but it’s not that… it’s really basic and if your a single woman and don’t know-​pay attention to me mama. You can find me all over DC.
Pro: you get to email a smokin hot or not so smokin hot person-​meet & go on a date if they don’t chicken out.
Con: they could be trying to get a free meal, free lovin, free, free and something for nothing based on the individuals character and one fact
…it’s truly hard for a man to pay attention to 1 woman when the quantity is what frank and his two best beans is going to mess with his mind to pick.
It’s a muffin lovin over-​loving no win situation. if
you see what you want and then… d*mn (looks at another photo of another picture on another profile) it could possibly be more (not so much better but more) if you keep right on fishing… you might find a dip-​shit-​fer
The Experience: It’s no doubt your smoking hot attractive, but as you contact the others it makes you wonder am I, nah I’m still the ish… your attitude. is a big factor and how quickly you act on the laws of attraction-​carefully and still then if they don’t ask and you don’t ask and you want more and they want more– umm well your still gosh darn single and then you get blue b*lls cause the connection just didn’t flow. Again another night, outing or whatever without a sexy mf’er (smh)
But POF will improve your chances by telling you what to say: S
The Service: Ive decided not to pay for it-​if I want to SEE a good looking guy I can look on the site without even joining so I closed my account (no one has to know what I want until they meet me) and if someone catches my eye I’ll just have to find a way to meet him the good old fashion way. face to face. POF does not even provide customers with a business telephone number or address.
From a DC Girls Experience
–Men will talk you to death limit your time on it
–Don’t send him any pictures
–He/​She could be an inmate trading your pics (pof improve this please!)
–keep it down to 3 messages (did he ask you out/​meet? if not end all contact)
–don’t allow txt or email if you want a day with a man-​not a boy
–If he says he wants to meet you in a low key spot (Red Flag!)
–Don’t meet him by yourself what so ever
But know that is company has been successful.
It’s not hard for me to get a date in person I just wanted to see if I could meet a guy with the same interests. I did but like the other 150 men in the UD/​DC area I’ve contacted they became scared or had no intention but to download pics of women or play. This causes anger to both sexes and… they still don’t meet.
just chat/​quick message/​email. but your success maybe better then most

There are a lot of amazing singles on the free dating website, Plenty of Fish. I recently discovered how they got so many amazing bachelors to sign up for their online service.
Basically, they went to the Unemployment Office. They asked anyone who was a convicted felon to step into a room. They removed anyone who had fewer than three illegitimate children. They then tested everyone for STDs, and anyone who was clean was sent home.
Everyone remaining in this room joined Plenty of Fish, and they are eagerly awaiting your reply!